On my 30th birthday, I found a velvet jewelry box inside Simon\u2019s jacket.<\/p>\n
After nine years together, I thought my wait was finally over.<\/p>\n
But inside were earrings\u2014not an engagement ring.<\/p>\n
That night, I finally asked Simon the question I had been afraid to ask.<\/p>\n
\u201cDo you actually plan to marry me?\u201d<\/p>\n
Instead of answering, he listed everything he thought was wrong with me\u2014my cooking, cleaning, attitude, and all the things I supposedly failed to do for him.<\/p>\n
Then he looked at me and said:<\/p>\n
\u201cI\u2019ll put a ring on your finger when you start acting like wife material.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n I didn’t argue.<\/p>\n I smiled.<\/p>\n The next morning, I made his favorite lasagna, cleaned the apartment, and then opened a drawer in his desk.<\/p>\n Inside was a list.<\/p>\n Simon had been secretly rating me like an employee.<\/strong><\/p>\n At the bottom, circled twice, were the words:<\/p>\n \u201cWife material \u2014 7.2\/10.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n Something inside me went completely numb.<\/p>\n Our families had recently given us two tickets to Las Vegas.<\/p>\n So I packed my suitcase, put on a simple white dress, and called my cousin Ryan to meet me there.<\/p>\n When Simon came home, he saw the list in my hand.<\/p>\n \u201cYou\u2026 you can’t do this to me.\u201d<\/p>\n But I walked away.<\/p>\n Simon followed me to Vegas, where things got even crazier after he mistook Ryan for another man and punched him\u2014only to discover Ryan was my cousin.<\/p>\n Later, Simon finally admitted the truth.<\/p>\n For nine years, he had been judging whether I was good enough to become his wife.<\/p>\n But he had never asked himself one important question:<\/p>\n Was he good enough to be my husband?<\/strong><\/p>\n Then he pulled out a ring.<\/p>\n I said no.<\/p>\n Nine years ago, I wanted Simon to choose me.<\/p>\n That night in Vegas, I finally chose myself.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" After 9 Years, I Found Out My Boyfriend Had Been Rating Me as \u201cWife Material\u201d On my 30th birthday, I found a velvet jewelry box inside Simon\u2019s jacket. After nine years together, I thought my wait was finally over. But inside were earrings\u2014not an engagement ring. That night, I finally asked Simon the question I…<\/p>\n