Attraction doesn’t always stay the same, and for some people, it shifts over time — a sexual identity known as abrosexuality.
Writer Emma Flint shared her story in Metro UK, explaining how her attraction changed throughout her life. For years she thought she was a lesbian, then later felt attracted to men, then to no one at all, and the cycle continued. She often felt confused and like she was “changing identities,” until she discovered the term abrosexual — finally feeling understood.
What is abrosexuality?
Healthline describes it as a form of sexual fluidity where a person’s attraction changes often. Unlike labels tied to specific genders, abrosexuality simply means that attraction shifts — sometimes toward different genders, and sometimes disappearing entirely for periods of time.
Flint says she loves people for who they are, not their gender, and that her fluctuating attraction doesn’t make her identity less valid. She points out that some people still pressure her to “pick a lane,” but sexual fluidity is real and personal.
Examples of abrosexuality include daily or gradual shifts in attraction, periods of feeling no attraction at all, or long-term changes over years.
Flint hopes that abrosexuality becomes understood as just another normal identity. Her story highlights how important language and representation are for people trying to understand themselves.