An Australian “sexuality educator,” Deanne Carson, sparked online controversy after suggesting parents should ask babies for permission before changing their diapers.
Carson argues that building a “culture of consent” should begin at birth, not for verbal agreement, but to teach respect for bodily autonomy. She encourages parents to pause, make eye contact, and narrate actions like “I’m going to change your diaper now,” to foster early communication and trust.
Critics, however, called the idea unrealistic and extreme. Commentators like Rowan Dean labeled it “lefty lunacy,” while psychologist John Rosemond said it promotes confusion and dysfunction. Social media users mocked the concept, comparing it to asking a cat for permission to change its litter.
Still, some supported Carson’s intentions, saying her goal—to promote respectful parenting—has merit, even if her example went too far.
The broader takeaway: while infants can’t consent, many agree that engaging with them respectfully and mindfully helps nurture early communication. Ultimately, whether to “ask” may depend on individual parenting styles.